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Is it a single staircase or does it have turns? Maybe a stairlift could be installed?
I think they run $3k - 6K, but it would still be easier than moving them to a condo.
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snoopy1122 Jul 2020
Hi. Thank you for responding. Glad to know I am not alone--but it is frustrating. Looked into a chairlift since it is just 1 straight flight. However, my mother's arthritis prevents her to completely bend her knee so the rep said she was not a candidate. (Thats a whole other story--should have had knee replacement 15 yrs ago--refused to do it--even fell and broke her wrist at my brothers wedding in 2008--stilll didnt get it done--she had breast cancer in 2010 and then was diagnosed with colon cancer in 2011. As a result of chemo she has cardiac issues and had a pacemaker inserted 2 years ago.). My dad could use it. It would be a good solution for the short term.
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Can you think of someone else to have ‘the conversation’. Parents often won’t take it from children, but are better able to hear it from a doctor (or a priest or someone else in authority).

In the short term, you can bodgy up a shower with a flexible hose attached to a mixer tap, and a rubber mat with walls to stand in on the floor. It’s not comfortable and there’s no privacy, but it can be done at the kitchen sink or from a ground floor toilet.

Sympathy – your difficult situation is only too understandable.
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snoopy1122 Jul 2020
Hi. Thank you for the response. My sister suggested a temporary shower. But again it is a short term solution. They (parents) need to realize that this situation is likely not going to go back to the way to things were.

I just don't understand my family at all. My husband just turned 50 and I am 48--we live in a 2 story home and are already planning to move when our youngest graduates from high school. We should not need all this space for only the 3 of us by then (6 or 8 years). Plus the maintenance is time consuming and physically strenuous. Don't mind doing it now, but I don't know the last time my dad mowed a lawn. He is going to be 74 in Aug. In 2014 he fell down his basement steps bc he was trying to move his bike down there. He was not hurt badly enough to go to hospital--but it was wake up call.

Last night my mom was on phone talking about going through stuff at the house. She says, "I just don't understand it. I used to come home from work and stay up and get stuff done. (she was a nurse and would come home at 11pm and then go to bed @ 1--she's always been a nightowl) She was talking about how she did things back in 1984 when I was a kid. I told her, "Mom that was like 35 years ago! Your energy level just is not the same." MY energy level isn't the same as it was when my kids were young. Again, denial of the reality of the situation. Feel like banging my head against a wall!
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Snoopy, I am so sorry that your family is facing this challenge.

My 1st thought is that your mom is suffering from a bit of mental deficiency and that is why the reality is not kicking in. She should know what she is facing. Just keep your antennae up for indications that she isn't 100%.

Best of luck dealing with stubborn parents and getting them to be cooperative.
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