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She was my father’s caregiver, who took him to court and married him without families knowledge. My father has short term memory loss and would do anything anyone tells him. After marriage she took him down the next day to have him change the POAs. We as daughters tried to annul th marriage but we settled for an mediation where as she can stay married and keep al his income as she has none.. she was homeless before and she enticed my father in a sexual manner. So now she feels feels she has total control of him and won’t let us visit him at the house that I and my father has title to. She must take him and pick him up. She makes excuses that she has appointments or plans with her friends to prevent us to has time with him. We were given agreement to see him for one week every 3months and she wants to dictate how and when we see him during that week.. could take her to court for contempt but we live out of state.. so frustrating. She is a narcissist thru and thru, she does take care of our father, and uses him for her own entertainment and his money. She tells him and all her friends how awful we are because we see thru her. Help!!!!

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Not sure how we can help. You had a lawyer. If Dad had a formal diagnosis, then he could not marry. He has to be competent to sign a contract, which marriage is. To change POAs a lawyer should be aware that Dad is not competent. Suppose to talk to him alone. Your Dad must not have come across as having cognitive problems.

Sorry, but have no idea what you can do.
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If this is real, and I'm sure it has happened somewheres , and will happen again. So I'm going to go with it is real.

I am so sorry, I really have no advice for you, I know just wanted to say how sorry I am. I wish I had something helpful to say but this is just a horrible mess. Others than get a good lawyer.
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barby56 Jul 9, 2024
Yes it’s real. I’ve spent 20000$to try to annul it, but lawyer not to helpful.. we love our father and it a shame we didn’t act on this sooner, now she has all the control
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Getting married when you have dementia is legal. But then if there's no medical diagnosis of impairment in his records, he can sign legal documents. Not sure how she was able to finalize any of it with a notary (in front of 2 non-family witnesses) if your 93-yr old father is that incapacitated...

You need lawyers. There's nothing we can tell you other than this. The burden of proof is on you and your sister. Find a lawyer who specializes in (and has experience in) prosecuting fraud and financial abuse in your Father's home state. A single consult may be enough for that attorney to tell you whether your case has any hope or not.
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Bogus.
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barby56 Jul 9, 2024
Not unfortunately,,
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