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I would say this but this just me if you could go home you would already be there and not here, thing is you'll hear no end of "I want to go home" it's just not possible plus if you did bring him to a new home or his, there would be another thing then another. If he is being looked after and provided for then you don't need to do anything regarding re-homing.
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My MIL demanded to go home after a fall last Jan that resulted in a hospital stay and then a rehab stay. She was adamant that she go home and not be slung into some filthy NH.

So the kids took her home to 24/7 care provided 90% by them. She was home for almost a month and then said one day "For a NH, this place isn't too bad".

All along she'd be HOME and she didn't know it.

A year later and she's still in home Hospice. It has been a phenomenally awful experience.

Looking back, all 3 kids said "we should have had her placed. She would have adapted". Instead, she has burned out her kids, her inlaws and a couple of grandkids. All so she could selfishly have her own way. (as usual).

We ALL want things we cannot have. That's called life. Sadly, she never learned this.
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lealonnie1 Jan 1, 2024
"She never learned this" because nobody ever taught it to her.
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Been there, done that. This could have been my mother you’re talking about. We let her go home, and it’s been a disaster. After a year of listening to her angry complaints about the ALF, all we hear now are the SAME complaints about the in-home caregivers, how she’s a “prisoner,” and how miserable she is. At the ALF, she had regular medical attention (she hates her PCP and refuses to see anyone for anything), regular meals (which she often refused; now she barely eats and throws away any food brought to her), and supervision of her meds (now she messes with the meds sets and mixes them up). My brother and I live thousands of miles away, and I moved out of the house when I was 17 because I couldn’t stand her toxic behavior. Your dad will NEVER be happy, no matter where he is. If he’s in a decent place, attended to, supervised, and fed… LEAVE HIM THERE. Or you will be trapped as his sole support and target for the rest of his life.
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