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What anti-vascular dementia medication is this that works so brilliantly if only your mother would take it? It's news to me that there is one.

I think I remember - do I? - that aggression and unreason and a *seriously* foul mood are symptomatic of diabetic hypos. I should go back to her doctor and ask for a referral to a specialist diabetes clinic, where you can get advice on managing the "challenging patient."
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Zdarov Apr 2019
I agree here, my mother has vascular dementia which surely resulted from poor control of diabetes. The ups and downs of blood sugar does this Jekyll/Hyde thing. For her, steady eating and water work about as well as her maintenance medicines.
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She is going through stages of dementia and this will get worse before her condition means she becomes more peaceful and compliant - assuming it isn't that the violence just gets worse. Its a horrible situation and one never knows quite how it will develop, just that the person is not the person you knew, nor the person they would want to be. Start looking for a home for her, and move her when you find the one you are happy will provide the care you want for her - sounds harsh but this will not improve and much though she is loved that is something that has to be accepted and dealt with in a way that cares for her and retains sanity, safety and better memories for everyone else. I really wish you well at this very hard time.
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Jerzeevibes94 Apr 2019
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You are most concerned about your mother taking her dementia meds, because if she does she is likely to eat, take the diabetes meds, and behave more reasonably. It might be worth putting it to your mother the other way round. If she doesn’t eat and take the diabetes meds, her life is at risk. You will be forced to put her into a nursing home because of this risk, because it is common experience that people are more likely to comply when they are in formal medical care, and you are risking legal liability. This is likely to be a real threat to your mother, so long as she believes you. She may decide that it is better to take the meds than to risk having to enter a NH.

If she eats and takes only the diabetes meds, you still have difficult behaviour to cope with, but it is more than possible that she will take the dementia meds if she takes the others. And if she won’t co-operate at all, the threat is not much of an exaggeration – you may indeed be forced into this. It sounds as though her biggest sticking point is accepting that she needs the dementia meds, so it may be easier to tackle it from the other direction.
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I'm not sure who is your mother's DPOA and Healthcare POA, but, perhaps they should explore professional care. Who is caring for her in the home? Some people are very resistant to care and it may not be feasible to manage their care in the home or with family members. It sounds like the family is tapped out of ideas. Are you having other issues with her such as bathing, toileting, changing, etc? Sometimes, people who have dementia cooperate better with non-family members. Also, this could be a phase and she may come through eventually.

Also, with her condition, it may be that she should not have the ability to feed the dog. Her and food in one area and the dog elsewhere, until her food is eaten. The person who is sick and brain damaged can't run the show indefinitely.
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Jannner Apr 2019
Lol my mother has a cat who is dying from kidney failure. ( vet says since she isn’t in pain, keep her alive to keep my mom from freaking out) The ALF won’t take care of pets so we pay for a pet sitter to come everyday. Not only has my mother still insisted on giving the cat human food that totally messes her up but started taking the cat’s fish oil lol. All the while of course insisting no one but her knows what they are doing. Aren’t delusions grand lol?!
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@Jannner it's all medications. She has diabetes and is supposed to take pills for that also, but at this point we just want to get the dementia meds into her because again, once she starts taking them everything else falls into place.
She doesn't eat because she's not hungry. So if you try and get her to eat she just gives it to her dogs
**She is stuck on believing the drug companies are only out to make money and they don't care about the person or their well being. She also swears its Dad who has dementia not herself. Dad, myself and my sister are literally up agaisnt a brick wall named Carole
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Blessed2B Apr 2019
I understand you completely. My brick wall his name is Joe he will not take anything he thinks it’s a medication. I have tried everything until I realized he will ask for a drink . One day when he asked I crushed his medication melted it in little a little hot water and poured his juice on top and mixed it up. I handed it to him and walked away. I realized if I give it to him normally he will drink it. Try giving mom her beverage of choice and not mentioning medication at all. Talking to him about why he needed the meds did not work. So now I don’t mention it. Maybe this will work for you I hope so.
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Some pills cannot be crushed. Mom's facility put the medication in pudding or yogurt. But I guess you have tried that. Hopefully someone else on the forum knows. We do have some nurses.
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My mother has vascular dementia and delusions and is a narcissist. I get your drift lol! ( last dr appointment she told the dr the dr was , stupid, full of sh***, accused me of stealing etc in the span of maybe 10 mins lol.
With delusions you need to change the subject. If she thinks the meds are bad you aren’t going to change her mind. Is she like this with any medication? Why doesn’t she eat? Is she just not hungry?

its a tough tough tough thing to deal with. I wonder if she would take them from a health care aid. My mom is sweet as pie to the ALS staff. It’s just family she’s mean to lol.
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