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My 94 mother has no control over her pooping. She sh$ts in the bed, and I have to clean up an actual large volume of sh$t. She wears a diaper, but that doesn't do anything. It is all over her, her diaper, her nightgown, the sheets, etc. I am at my wits end. She has no knowledge that she is going to the bathroom and does not seem to be able to go like a normal person. It is always loose stools. She does not have dementia, yet she is unable to control herself. I would like to get rubber pants, like they had for babies years ago. I have a pad on the bed, but she is the problem and I can't stand her.

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I get this is an awful situation. For you & her.

The usual advice is:
Aim to CURE - if not possible, aim to CONTAIN.

What does Mom's Doctor say about the ongoing loose stools & lack of control?

Is there a continence health nurse or service/hotline to advice re products? Plastic/rubber pants will increase moisture & destroy skin integrity very quickly. I'd stay well away from those!

"but she is the problem and I can't stand her".

Yikes! Time for change then. Tell Mom's Doctor, arrange a needs assessment & arrange placement.
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Sounds like she indeed has some dementia if she is truly unaware of what she is doing. That, or she is trying to cover for herself: “Oh, I didn’t know I did that! Oopsie!”.

Anything related to poop and I’m done. Sounds like you are too. She needs memory care. They can handle the poop and tend to her more frequently.
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https://www.carewell.com/product/sani-pant-nylon-protective-underwear/
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LOL
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If "she is the problem" and you "can't stand her" it's way past time to place your mother in a nursing home, where she will be cared for by trained professionals who are used to folks pooping in their diapers.
Your mother deserves at her age to be taken care of by someone who can stand her, and if that's not you, then do your mother a favor and get her placed ASAP.
And if money is the issue, she can apply for Medicaid.
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Cover999 Aug 2022
Yes they are and many will change the resident when they get around to it.
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